How often can you reinvent yourself?

The obvious answer that comes to mind – unlimited times. Is that true, though? You can reinvent yourself every day, sure. But, what would be the purpose? How believable would that be? What does it actually mean, ‘reinvent yourself’?

Starting with the meaning of ‘reinventing oneself’, a meaningful reinvention requires a substantial change: a new job, a new career, a new business, a new relationship, a new city, a new baby, a new pet. In short, something different from the day before that changes life to an important degree. That makes it difficult, even nonsensical, to continue yesterday’s life. An event, which encourages and pushes us to live life a new way.

Reinvention is an active process. We need to do something. CHANGE the way we handle one or more aspects of our life. MOVE.

The direction of our changed, new, moved life may be forward, or at times even backward. Back to familiar territory. Or back to the point where we took the wrong turn in the past to take the right one this time around. It’s of little relevance to identify the reinvention. Important for that is only the change and move action.

Why do people reinvent themselves? For others? For themselves? There are uncountable possible reasons and detailed examples of people’s motivation for reinvention. Only the individual concerned can lastly determine their validity, i.e. the real reason for the reinvention. In all likelihood, it will be a bit of both: to be happier with oneself and to please someone else.

The goals of being happier with oneself or pleasing someone else can only be achieved, if the change, the reinvention, is credible. If one believes it and if others believe it. If the change appears not ‘real’ or ‘too good to be true’, it is not believed and often, indeed, not true.

Fundamental change takes time. Significant change cannot happen every day or every few days. This would not be ‘believable’. Repeated significant or fundamental change loses its credibility, its purpose, and, in the end, fails.

In essence, we can reinvent ourselves as often as necessary. We should be careful, however, to keep in mind the purpose of the reinvention.  Actual reinvention should happen only a handful of times during our lifetime. Otherwise, it fails. If need be, we can always adjust aspects of our current life to improve it without having to significantly, fundamentally change and move. Reinvention is best kept for exceptional circumstances.

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